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maybe, but its true.
until you have been used and violated in that way you do not know. Rape victims..no survivors are not treated with sympathy. We do not get the compassion you desire. We are treated like diseased people, pariahs, people that others can’t talk to. Until you are in our shoes you do not know this pain.
There is no need to thank me.
Thank you for being a person trying to forgive.
I will say I am sorry, and I’m not a sociopath, because I do know how disgusting and wrong what I did was. I regret it every single day and even if I do forgive myself by some magical happening, that doesn’t mean I will not be sorry or stop continuing to apologize and do whatever I can for the people whom I’ve hurt.
And for everyone on here who is mad and can not forgive-I don’t understand what you’re going through, but I do understand your rights to be furious. I only hope that all of you get everything you deserve and more.
I am 100% completely, truly, and honestly sorry and I will never think that fixes thing nor will I ever stop being sorry.
The Sociopath part came out wrong, I believe SHE is one. I re-read your post and saw that I missed you saying anxiety & bi-polar disorder. My family and I know those too well.
You did a good thing today by posting this.
I agree ^
It is fucked up. It does stop people from being able to tell the truth. It was not okay.
But it was the thing you did that was messed up, not who you are. A mistake, no matter how big, is not worth your whole life. That doesn’t help anybody.
I believe the best thing to do is fess up, accept people’s anger, move on, and try to take the past to make a better future for not only yourself, but everyone who was hurt in the process.
“All men make mistakes, but only wise men learn from their mistakes.”
In reply to your comment and the others like it. It is a big deal. we are responsible for our actions no matter how many people have done the same thing.
Not everyone deserves compassion. Granted 90% or more of people deserve compassion. Hitler did not,Dr. Mengele did not etc.
The purpose of Post Secret and sites like it is to share a secret you feel the need to share. It is NOT to get support for those secrets. Expecting strangers on the internet to be compassionate for all things all the time is ignorant and naive.
While it is true this girl could have lied to cover or express some deep trauma you must also consider that she did not lie for those reasons. Some people are evil, heartless or have no empathy. Some people just lie. Some people do not care at all how that effects others.
If you want us to assume she did it as a victim we can expect you to assume she did it as a sociopath.
Final note: people judge people. It happens. We have to try to NOT judge people. Yelling at us to stop judging ends up making you look at bit judgemental…
You did technically get raped. Rape does not always involve strangers, knives or strangulation. Sometimes you have to give up to survive physically & emotionally. That’s still rape.
I never said what i did was okay. but i still feel you are wrong.
the definition of ‘fucked up’, to me anyway, are women who lie about rape just to get kicks, ‘fucked up’ are girls in my high school being dumped by boys and wondering whether to press rape charges on him, and then being egged on by their friends. i overheard this being casually discussed in the restroom. i don’t understand how what i did could be the same? please, do explain in more detail, if you don’t mind. i’d just like to know.
you don’t need to apoligise to me about my mom, i soon realised she wasn’t good for me when she couldn’t be there for me at the lowest point in my life. i am sorry how the cops handled you after what happened, but can i ask you this? when cops doubt women who claim to have been raped, do you think it’s because of CSA victims who quietly exaggerate their stories for affection, or women who purposely tell lies, not caring who they hurt in the process? i’m not trying to justify myself or what i did, trust me, i know it was wrong. i’d just like others opinions.
i have never been sorrier about something after i told that lie, and i have never told anyone apart from my own mom that i was ‘raped’, she actually knows the truth now, not that it stirred any extra emotion. but i do wonder why, after being through almost 11yrs of CSA, i suddenly felt “just abuse” wasn’t enough?
I need to apologize to you I think.
I meant lying about being raped when nothing happened is fucked up. But I believe when I posted this I didn’t fully read your post. That was wrong of me.
What your Uncle did is fucked up, what you did is actually understandable.
Your mom not caring/believing/protecting is fucked up.
Me telling you that you are the reason women like me aren’t believed without fully listening to your story is fucked up.
I obviously still harbor feelings of anger for both the rape and my friends who have lied about being raped.
You were abused, sexually abused, and probably more. I am sorry. What I said shouldn’t have been towards you. It should have been towards the people I have mentioned.
It is a sad truth that people still think that its “just abuse”. Any abuse is traumatic abuse and it should be taken seriously.
My heart is with you along with my apologies.
I had a girl lie about me raping her so she wouldn’t get in trouble for drinking at school. I got expelled for it. Lying about rape is a horrible and serious thing
In the past year, I’ve had sex with 6 people. I didn’t like any of them. Every time, I felt completely numb while it happened. Afterwords, I felt violated and empty. Although it was most definitely consensual. So yes, I lied and told my friends I was sexually abused by one of my mother’s ex-boyfriends. Am I a horrible person for that? You tell me. But how else could I get them to understand why I feel so horrible, so dead? Especially because most of the people I had sex with, were my friends.
By the way, I’m fourteen.
I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to reply to your comment.
i wasn’t raped…more like sexually assaulted. i told my best friend, but i still relive those days over in my head. there’s nothing i can do…
i cant stand people like you. rape is a serious matter. its not something to joke or lie about. and i can almost guarantee you did this for attention. you should see a therapist. if my close friends lied about such a thing and i found out later that it wasn’t true i would have a hard time trusting that person again. you need to grow up and get help.
if you ever actually experience rape or sexual assault you will understand that this inst something you casually tell anyone.
I was raped by two men at different times. I reported both to the police. Both times I was alienated from many of my friends because “I don’t know what to believe” and “he seems really nice, he would never do that.” Also: “you have an agenda to lie.”
And you know what? It’s cunts like you that let my rapists get away with it, who let them move on to rape others, and who make me look like a liar so I had to completely relocate because I TOLD THE TRUTH.
Fuck you. I hope you really are raped one day, and nobody believes you.
I’ve never accused someone of a crime like rape and made things harder for REAL rape victims. Everybody’s done BAD things, but HER lies are what makes it so hard for REAL rape victims to get justice, or understanding, or even EMPATHY.
Totally judging her as a bad person. Having reported TWO men for rape to the police and having to relocate TWICE because nobody believed me? I can judge her as a horrible person that contributes to the further victimization of rape victims by our “justice” system.
I LOLed at this not making her a horrible person. Rapists are horrible people. People that do things like this and make people who have really gone through rape are horrible people because it is PRECISELY this kind of thing that makes NOBODY believe women who have been raped. So yeah, that qualifies her as a horrible person.
Also, how can you be “disgusted” with us judging someone? LOL HELLOZ IRONY!
I have told people that I have been raped and I haven’t. After a long time of guilt and trying to figure out what in the world I did it for I have come to the conclusion that I have dealt with so much pain in my life that most people can not understand and I felt a need for someone to feel bad for me and understand the level of pain I was in, and the only way in my mind for them to understand just how much pain I was in was to tell them something that they could grasp in their minds of how much pain that would have caused. I don’t think it was right looking back on it now, but it gave me what I needed at the time. I needed support and understanding of the amount of pain I was in and rape was the only think I could think of that people could relate my feelings to. But I regret it now.
Wishing rape on someone?
My fucking god. What does that make you??
i didnt lie, but i denied it for so long it almost feels like it wasn’t real
I’ve read all of the comments for this image. The one thing I can’t get myself to understand is why so many people commented on here called her a horrible person, say everyone who has done that should be raped, and so on and so forth. Yet, there are people who comment and said they had done the same thing and explained the situation some. Then someone new comes along, reads that comment, acknowledges that the situation explained is actually rape, or if it wasn’t actual rape, it was damn near close to it…How come no one has said “maybe the person who submitted the secret actually was raped but does not understand that it actually was rape.” or “maybe it wasn’t rape but was damn near close to it.” How come it has to be a psychological disorder or attention seeking behavior?
Thank you. I’ve been waiting for someone to say that.
It’s not something to wish upon someone. Never should someone sink that low as to wish that on someone.
The comments just show how hypocritical we are.
I believe if I was to say I was raped, it would be a lie. Even if the scars say differently, I just tell myself it was a violent dream, just a dream, that the scars aren’t real, that my fear of so much is just some form of psychological disorder. But I know deep down, I was raped.
Who’s to say this person isn’t like me? It’s so likely.
1 out of 4 women are a victim of sexual assault.
If there’s 10 women that are victims, 4 of them won’t admit it because they won’t believe it.
1 out of 9 men are a victim of sexual assault.
If there’s 10 men that are victims, 9 of them won’t admit it because of embarrassment and disbelief.
So think about your group of friends and how horrible the statistics are. And most of them won’t admit it.
You’re welcome, and thank you for the statistics Jinx
thats rape.
why? do you not realize that shit actually happens? do you not know that some women feel so bad afterwards that they kill themselves. There are kids who spend their whole lives wondering why they were victimized. You’re a horrible person and if you don’t give up the chirade I hope it really happens so you’ll know what it’s like to be fucked in the head.
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I honestly hope with all my heart you never go through something like that again x
My first and only sexual experience was with my rapist. When I was twelve. I hate myself every single day of my life that I didn’t try harder to stop him. I wish sometimes that I was strong enough to have killed myself, just so I could stop being afraid of him coming back. I have fantasies about going to his house and telling his new wife that he is a rapist and a pedophile. I dream that the police will show up at my house, telling me that he attacked someone else, just so I can testify against him too and he’ll go to prison where he’ll experience what it’s like to be raped. Four years of therapy didn’t help and it never will. I will never have a normal relationship with a man because of what he did to me.
Next time you think about lying, think about that. You have no right to claim that this happened to you unless it did. It’s because of people like you that people don’t believe me when I tell them. It’s because of people like you that the only man I’ve ever loved since that night called me a liar and walked out on me.
Same. Except he thinks he was 3rd. However something did happen to me in my past by my older brother, I just can’t remember due to trauma, and only know something happened based off a journal I found in his room.
You need to tell them who it really was. If they are friends they won’t hate you.
You are a brave person.
What you did was horrible. I’m sorry, it was. So many people have hurt and you’re abusing their pain…
I’ve never lied about my life, but I can understand how sometimes you don’t know how to explain why you’re unhappy. Consider though, that if any of those things you mentioned ever did happen, you may not want to talk about it, and then instead of trying to explain your pain with a lie, you’d be trying to hide your pain with lies. There will be people who understand not having a reason for feeling depressed. Depression doesn’t have to have a reason.
Meanwhile, by lying, you’d be ruining someone’s life. It doesn’t matter if a man is not guilty or found not guilty of rape. Once he is accused of it, the reputation follows him. People will always wonder if he did it and got away with it. Please get help for your problems so more people won’t have to get help for theirs.
You’re sick. I know some lying hillbilly who did the same thing; lied because as soon as she found out she was pregnant, her boyfriend got a brain and ran for the hills. The lady I speak of is my step-mom and she’s honestly one of the worst people I’ve ever met. Schizophrenic, crazy lady; who wouldn’t run for the hills? Then my dad married her; what a mistake! Oh, it was alright for the first few years, then she came out; she showed her real side. Anyone who lies about rape, for any reason should go to jail.
I knew someone that lied about this too, and about being a vegan and being a lesbian. I remember having so much respect for her, and now I just think she is an idiot. If you just didn’t lie in the first place, we would probably be friends and I would have more faith in people.
Just be who you are damnit!
My best friend told me we were going on a date. We went into the middle of the woods, he locked his car doors, and he raped me.
for a year, i told no one because I did not want to believe it. Finally, when I did tell a select few people- I thought these were people I could trust- my secret got spread around as a lie, and I was harassed because “I’m a bitch for lying.”
So people like you really need to use your god damn brain before you speak. 4 girls I graduated with in high school lied about rape- now that I actually was, no one will believe me. It’s becoming a trend. Rapists will get away with it more often because no one is going to believe anyone anymore. My rapist is free. I did not go to the police because I knew nothing would come of it. But now when I come out of work and he’s sitting in his car in front of the building, what am I supposed to do? So thank you, your lies have really fucked those of us who have gone through this shit. Dumb bitch. I would never wish what I went through on someone else, but I hope you think about this every day and know you’re hurt a lot of people and contributed to our complications in finding justice and closure.
Thanks.
me too.
Okay, agreed, horrible thing to do, but I just want to mention a bit of information about rape statistics since someone listed some off. Statistics about rape are likely inaccurate, when the government or whomever comes up with these statistics, they have to take into account that for every reported rape there are many that go unreported. Generally they multiply by 10 because they assume that for every rape reported there are 10 that go unreported. Personally, I could be wrong, but I feel that it can’t be nearly that high, so whatever statistics you do hear be a bit skeptical of, because some percentage of that is correct, but on the other hand a large percentage of it is mere estimation. It could be true, but the facts behind these statistics are a bit sketchy.
thats fucked up homeslice. u know how many dudes have gone down or lost friends or had numerous things happen to them for some bullshit lies like this? U know the pain people have gone through that actually did get raped? What youre doing is fucked up. Get over yourself. THeres a word for that, attention wh*ring.
I won’t go as far as to say I’d wish rape on anyone, but if you’re someone who lies about getting raped, then you can go fuck yourself. I’ve lied about a lot of things in the past, just like anyone else, but when I finally told my parents that I’d been raped, and when I was being completely honest with them for the first time, they didn’t believe me. They said I was looking for attention and that I needed to stop lying “for my own good.” If you’ve lied about being raped, then there’s a lot more wrong with you than you think, and you seriously need help. I don’t care if you just wanted someone to care or if you were looking for some way to fully express your pain. There’s absolutely no excuse for lying about something that serious.
To anyone who’s lied about being raped: go fuck yourself. I won’t go as far as to say you deserve to get raped, because no one deserves that, but there is something seriously wrong with you. I’ve lied about a lot of things in the past, I won’t deny that, but when I decided to be completely honest with my parents and tell them that I’d been raped, they didn’t believe me. They said that a lot of people lie about getting raped, and it’s a sign of attention-seeking behavior. I don’t think I can fully express the anger and frustration I felt in that moment. I’m 18 years old now, and I had kept that secret for over a decade. Coming clean was a really big deal for me, and it’s because of people like you, who lie about being raped, that my own parents didn’t believe me. So you can try to justify your actions by saying you were only looking for someone to care, or that you wanted to express the pain you were feeling, but the bottom line is that there is no fucking excuse for doing what you did. Don’t even try to find one.
fucking attention whores these days…..this isnt shit you lie about to get attention.
dumb bitch
when i was 12 a guy i had met that day convinced me to have sex with him. i came up with reasons why it was a bad idea, but ultimately let him do it so he would like me.
later, paranoid that my strict father would disown me for being a slut if i was found pregnant i lied and said i was raped.
the guy got 2 years in rehab.
i haven’t forgiven myself. at 23, i still can’t sleep because of it.
i wish i could get rid of the guilt.