Post Secret Archive

I told my friends that too. It wasn’t a full lie, but the person I told them that did it was a lie. How could I tell them who it really was? They’d all hate me.

I told my friends and family I was raped too after I fully understood what happened. Sometimes I feel like I’m lying about it though, even if it was just statutory rape and I had asked him to stop.

I hinted the same thing to my friends. My coworker actually did it to me. But no one even raised an eyebrow.

People only know what they’re told. So if its lies they are fed, its lies they believe..
It’s up to you to decide what information they hold.

No one has to know your business, if you don’t want them to.

Why would you lie?

I was raped by my brother. I never told anyone.

I think you’re a horrible person.

wow, really
there are better ways of getting attention than that.

My friend told me a lot of things in one go. She told me she self harmed – i belive her. She told me she’s thought about suicide – I belive her. She told me she was almost raped – I know she wasn’t telling the truth… She was very drunk and was trying to justify all the things she’s doing… I cried with her , sat in the room for an hour hugging her… You know , it doesn’t matter. I know her well enough to be able to tell. She knows that too – she doesn’t need to explain or fix it. I just want her to get help.

this is sad. &i find it hard not to judge you. but i’m doing it.

I understand. I sometimes wish that something terrible had happened or would happen to me so I’d have a reason to explain why I am so miserable. Why I can’t even get out of bed.

Y couldnt you just cut your wrists for attention?

My stepdad raped me when i was nine

The only ppl who know r my ex and my best friend

U R A HORRIBLE PERSON
U SHOULD TELL YOUR “FRIENDS” THE TRUTH

btw

Y would you lie to your “friends”

i did the same thing to get attention
my mom hit me
and i was sexually harrassed when i was 11
i felt it was the only way for ppl not to use me but to feel my pain

i did the same thing to get attention
my mom hit me
and i was sexually harrassed when i was 11
i just wanted to feel loved

I did the same thing. I did it to get sympathy out of people, cause I have never felt like anyone cared. My first thinks he is my 8th. I have no idea how to tell him.

It may be something more than lies are the issue. If you can, you may want to consider counseling. It will give you the chance to explain the whole situation in a confidential setting and possibly give you the courage and peace to get over this in some way and to prevent further problems. If they’re real friends, and if you get the help you need, they should understand. If not, it may be time for a fresh start- good luck.

My best friend when I was 12 lied about being raped repeatedly over 6 months time, I have not forgiven her. 8 years later another best friend lied about my boyfriend raping her, I forgave her.
I have been raped twice by three different men, I have not forgiven them.
The terror the fury the rage the loss of faith and the damage to my soul, make me want to hate you. To yell at and hit you and so much more.
I will try to forgive you, but even typing the words makes me want to cry.
To lie about rape is to tear out the souls of 1 in 3 women in this country. And the karma alone should terrify you.

I told people i was raped..but i told them the wrong person. I just couldn’t tell them it was my own family member that did it.

The first rape was one man. The second it was 2 men, they drugged and raped me in a basement. I call that 2 occasions of rape, or being raped twice. How would you say it?

Attention whore I don’t care what your excuse is.
Some things you just don’t lie about.
I was raped, by my uncle 10yrs ago.
I think about it EVERY DAY.
Why would you lie about that??
Awful liar. Why why why?

I’m sorry but this is just disgusting to lie about something so terrible. If it ever does actually happen to you then and only then will you know how terrible it was for you to lie about it to begin with. Rape is an awful traumatic experience and to lie about it you must be sick in the head. YOU NEED MENTAL HELP.

That is a horrible lie to say.

I did the same thing. I did it because I wanted to hear the words “it’s not your fault”; because I wanted people to stop wondering what was wrong with me so they would leave me alone; because I wanted to hear compassionate words.

I understand how real rape victims must feel about people like me. I know my actions undermine their suffering, trivialize their pain, and contribute to create a culture where people believe that women just lie when they say they were raped. I am truly sorry, and I apologize. I know that the reasons why I lied merely explain the fact, but don’t justify it.

I told one of my friends I lied to him. He said “You don’t need an excuse to explain the way you are; I like you regardless”.

Rape isn’t something you should lie about. I was raped by my best friend. It’s an agonizingly traumatic experience, and to lie about that is just wrong. I’m not judging you, but I think you should tell your friends the truth. I don’t know your actions behind it and hey, they might be a good reason, but you should still never lie about that.

4 yrs ago (i was 14) a family friend molested me. i told my friend b/c i didn’t know what to do and she turned everybody i knew against me. that was one of the worst years of my life. the saddest part is he didn’t rape me. that sounds horrible but if he had, there would have been enough evidence to convict him, and he’d probably be in jail now. i don’t think i was the first to be sexually abused by him. i try to convince myself that i’ve forgiven him but anytime i see or hear about sexual abuse or something that reminds me of that night, i realize how much i truly hate him and really haven’t forgiven him. i tell friends that i was sexually abused… not specifics b/c i don’t think they’d take me seriously if they knew. some assume i was raped and i don’t correct them, sorry if that offends you. i’m not sure if its because i wish i was so he’d be punished or if i sincerely wonder if he did b/c i don’t remember parts of the night it happened, or if i’m really just a screwed up person. i’m thinking about making a postsecret about that night and sending him a copy of it. i wonder if he realizes or cares bout what he did and how many other girls he’s hurt. i know revenge isn’t the way to fix things but i really want him to feel guilty for what he did b/c i feel guilty for being so shocked and not having the courage to stop him.

this secret does offend me, but i can see myself it there a little.
i had been abused by members of my family for years, and last summer it went further than ever before. i knew my uncle wanted to rape me as he whispered it in my ear. the only reason it never reached penile penetration was because his girlfriend walked in.
even after years of abuse, that was the most traumatic event i have ever experienced, and when it came to tell and to report it to the police it was described as attempted rape, something i was completely fine with. my problem only began when my mum refused to acknowledge that anything bad had happened. i told her i was raped, hoping to stir some emotion, but she was still very apathetic.
i’ve always felt like i have been raped – the sexual abuse and assaults are still grave violations of the self on the lowest level, but i felt like i wasn’t only lying to her, but i was lying to myself. i’m now moving on, and although i still worry about people’s reactions when i say it was “only” attempted rape, i am learning to slowly deal.

i don’t judge this girl. yes i am hurt that she lies about something as sensitive as this, but then so did i. we don’t know her story.

thats fucked up but idk maybe you had a reason… but keep in mind that people like you are the reason people like me are scared to tell

well, i pretty much did the same thing today, lied to my bestfriend about being raped, when really i was only molested (& im not saying that molestation isnt bad too, so dont kill me for saying “only” lol). it was by my cousin, not some random guy at a party like i told her. as much as you wanna skate around this lie & move on, you can’t. no matter what, you’ll still have that uneasy feeling about your lie. somehow, you have to tell her the TRUTH! if she no longer wants to be ur best friend (which i kno hurts like hell), then u should accept that bcus u hurt her & she has a right to be angry with you…

When I was 7 years old I was adopted. I liked my new family until I was 9 years old my and my dad raped me. I never told anyone about it until now. I’m 16 years old now and can’t wait to move out and go to college so I don’t have to worry about being home alone with him anymore. Unfortunately I’ll never forget about it. Rape is serious and should never be lied about.

Rape is not something to EVER!!!!! lie, joke, kid around with i mean god are you stupid? insane? Sick i mean wow i am glad i am not like you at all i mean lie about some thing that actually is stupid?

I did it too.

When I was 15 I had sex with a man who was 20. I was completely willing and was in no way forced into it. 100% my idea. Full consent. Does that still make it statutory rape? I’m 19 now, perfectly healthy, deans list, great boyfriend, the whole deal, and I still do not see anything wrong with what happened. He was honestly a good person.

Liars like you take away from the reality and trauma of the situation. Every time I hear something like this I find it harder to believe people who say they’ve been raped, and I hate myself a little for that.

Can’t you see that this girl, for whatever reason is in so much pain she feels the need to do that? Even if she wasn’t raped she is still hurting and obviously feels enough remorse about it to share it on post secret. but hey, don’t worry i’m sure all your judgemental and nasty comments have made her feel so much better. For somebody to do that they must already need help, comments like this are enough to drive somebody that confused to suicide. I was in a relationship for years as a teenager, raped and beaten repeatedly, the man forbid me from seeing my own mother who was so ill she eventually hung herself. EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES. I’ve been to hell and back and I still have the ability to remain compassionate to somebody who is clearly crying out for someone to notice her pain. Your NOT a horrible person, you need to talk to somebody and work out why you did that, what you gained from it emotionally and you need to get some help. You haven’t hurt anybody and even good people can do bad things sometimes, it doesn’t make YOU bad.

I agree with this 100%. Lying about rape is not a good thing to do, but we have no idea of her reasons and motivations behind it, and she deserves to be shown compassion, just as all human beings deserve. Sometimes I feel like when people comment here they forget that there’s an actual person behind the secret who could be really hurt by all the comments.

How can you lie about getting raped? What do you want from that? Have you thought of what other peoples who actually got raped feels? If you don’t then you might be some idiotic who wants atention with the wrong methods! You can’t just play with the word rape like its nothing wrong. How shallow are you?!

What this person did isn’t right but Post secret is about being able to share your most personal thoughts, fears and regrets without judgement from others. Keep your opinions to yourselves, you don’t know her circumstances and you have no right to judge. I know exactly how it feels to be raped and if somebody wants people to think she is in that much pain then she must be going through a considerable amount of distress herself. She hasn’t hurt anybody, take your anger out on the law that lets rapists roam our streets or the rapists themselves not a girl crying out for help. There’s a difference between attention seeking and trying to get people to notice your own suffering, people do crazy things when they feel helpless and alone, it doesn’t make somebody shallow or an idiot!!! Every critic here will have done something they truly regret and if they had the balls to send it in would be criticised for. Everybody is entitled to their own opinion but theres no need whatsoever to be so hurtful about it.

my brothers best friend once forced me into doing thinsg with him, but not full on sex. he threatened me, and things of the sorts. is that rape? i dont know, becuase it wasn’t full on. it scared the hell uot of me, and when i do things with other guys, i can’t help but see his evil, twisted face.

STOP IT! How dare you judge her? This is about sharing your secrets. Go ahead, judge me. I told the same thing to my boyfriend. I needed a reason for the hurt I felt. I needed an excuse for hurting myself, attempted suicide, drug use, depression, my drinking problem. Instead of admitting that it was all in my head, and that it was all my fault, I needed something real. I needed to offset the blame… happens all the time. You are lying if you say it doesn’t. So I created something that fit. It was a mistake, and it was wrong, and I apologize to the people that have been hurt reading this, but you never know the reason behind the reason people do things.

i did the same thing because i was scared and i loved the guy and he convinced me into doin it when i wasnt ready. but i still said ok even tho i meant to say know i broke up with him after and went through serious depression and told every one he raped me, it pretty much ruined his life which hurt me even more

Yeah.. I’ve done it too.
It sucks. My friend told the school counselor… which lead to a police report, even though I denied it. She said she still had to file it because I may have backed down because I’m scared.

Every time the phone rings I think it’s the police wanting to investigate.

Boo fucking hoo. All of you people, just get over it.
This is someone’s confession, I’m sure you’ve all had one too.
What right do you have to judge someone for thoughts that you’ve all probably had yourself?
I’m sure at least one of you have thought about making something up either because of a need for attention or to spite someone.
It’s not a big fucking deal, you don’t even know this person.
So don’t try to sum them up based on one sentence.
All I have to say is, fuck you people.
Fuck you sincerely.

totally agree with natasha

I did the same thing. I know it’s horrible and I’m sitting here trying to explain why I did it and why you might have, but there’s really no reason other than attention that I can convince myself is true. I was pressured into having sex, I told him I didn’t really want to and he still did anyway. I could’ve done more to stop him but I didn’t. So it’s partially my fault. But I felt absolutely miserable and violated and disgusted afterwards and told my friends that he raped me so they could help me get through it. I didn’t technically get raped but based on how i felt after, it sure as hell felt like it.

You don’t know her life.

I did the same thing, I told everyone that I was raped even though I didn’t think I had been.

I had all the symptoms, all the fears of men, the dirty, whorey feelings, and, ironically, the hypersexuality that comes with being a rape victim.

In therapy, three years later, I found out through intensive therapy what my father used to do to me when he got home from work, on a daily basis, when i was little.

So all of you self-righteous pricks need to shut up. You have no idea whats going on in her life. Stop being a douche and clean up your own life before judging, in an anonymous and cowardly fashion, i may add,someone elses life.

I feel like a liar every time I say it, because at the time I wanted it. I wanted it because I felt like he was the only person who truly loved me, and I would have done anything to make him happy.

But I was eight years old. He should not have asked.

I’ll be honest, I lied about being raped too. When I lied, I was very young(8), I didnt even fully understand what rape was. I lied for attention, because I left like noone looked at me, like noone could see me. I’ve hated that i lied about it my whole life, but never had the courage to tell anyone that i told this lie, that it was infact a lie.

About a year ago my friend and i “seduced” a guy we knew into having a threesome.
things started between her and i, but he was only interested in me…
so she bailed and left me there.
i felt like i HAD to finish, to go through with it, because it was our idea.
i remember him saying “let’s get this party started”
i hear it again and again and i HATE myself for not saying no.
i didn’t vocalize that i didn’t want to do it, but i didn’t.
i wish i had said no.
i feel like this IS my fault and i AM dirty because i should have said no.
i wish i told him no. every day i wish i said no.
now i look back and hate myself for that night.
i know this isn’t “rape” but i feel so violated and i let it happen.

For attention? not judging at all believe me, but there are better ways. If you focus you’re attention on making up drama, people will get fed up with it and leave you and then you’re just left with a mess of lies you’ve created. think about it.

You’ll never know the true pain of your actions. The pain that happens to people who were actually raped and no one believes them. I’m 16, raped when I was 12. 5 people know, 3 of my best friends, my boyfriend, and my ex-boyfriend. My ex is the only one who actually cares. I only told him because it was the true reason I broke up with him… I was afraid of a repeat. Because of my actions, I live in fear. Because of your actions, I live without understanding. Thank you.

I am so sorry for all of you who have suffered rape and sexual violation…I am one of you. However, I’d like to point something out here….Why have most of us (whether we wrote about it or not) reacted with such revulsion to this secret? It’s because it brings us back to the pain of something we’ve experienced. In this fashion, WORDS HURT. However, how are others any better people than someone who lied to her friends about such a grevious matter when they are using THEIR words to call this girl horrible. None of you are horrible.

The only way that someone could lie about having been raped is if he or she does not truly understand the devastating effects of rape and the possible ramifications of such a lie. Or, if he or she is mentally ill. Similarly, if someone wishes for hardships such as these, it is only due to a lack of understanding of the suffering they bring. These people are experiencing emotional pain (probably either due to an issue that they don’t consider “acceptable” OR due to a chemical imbalance in their brains), and they are looking for compassion from both others AND themselves…These people probably have been tormenting themselves with the following question: “Why do I feel so badly when I have not experienced the suffering that others have experienced?”. These people are not minimizing the horrible suffering that you have been through….They likely have great respect for you as survivors of something they could not even imagine. They simply are trying to come to terms with their own suffering. Nobody TRULY wishes for the reality of being raped unless they are seriously mentally ill. So clearly, these people just don’t understand what experiencing rape is really like. It’s like a child saying that they wish that they were sick when they see the compassion and understanding received by those who are. This does not make the child a bad person…just wishing for compassion and love within a context about which they are ignorant. Clearly, this girl did not feel as though she was able to get sufficient acknowledgement and affection from her friends unless she told this lie…this is indicative of not a bad person, but a sick person who could not have really grasped what she is saying.

My heart overflows with compassion for all of you….we are all struggling to make it through this world however we can. Hang in there.

I am not judging you or anyone else.
All I can say, being a victim of rape (several times) myself, which in turn sent me on a downward spiral of drug addiction, eatting disorders, self harm, a completele total numb fucking mess for years.. after all that suffering, I can proudly say I’m 19, almost 20 now.. still alive, stronger and happier than ever with 6 months sobriety tomorrow. I live with no regrets and do my best to practice total honesty.
I truely feel sorry for you.

All the posts on here made me decide to tell my story.

I lied about being raped. I even said I thought I was pregnant. I still am not completely sure why I did it. My life is not exactly “easy”, but I know that is no excuse. I have dealt with some sexual harassment and at times wonder if I hide things from myself. Although, I know I don’t. I told my best friend, somebody who I trusted. When he responded with positive attention towards me, I told a few others. Eventually, the whole thing blew up and my friend told the counselor. I then tried to tell the truth to the counselor and my friend, but they didn’t believe me. The office was told and the police were called. A report was filed, even though I said I didn’t do it.

I lost all my friends, had to change schools, developed an eating disorder, and I know it was all karma. I deserved it.

I later went to a therapist, told my mom, was diagnosed with depression, anxiety disorder, and bipolar disorder. I was told this could have even been a “manic moment.”

To all who I know I hurt, to all rape victims, I am truly sorry. I cannot even imagine the pain you go through every day. I cannot imagine what it is like to read posts like these. I never meant to hurt you, although I know I did. I apologize and admire you for being such strong women and dealing with this every day. I wish I had never said it, and I cannot express in words the guilt I feel. All I can say is how sorry I am.

However, I do want to say-to any girl that has ever been in a similar situation-what you did was bad, but you are not bad. There are people out there who made the same mistake as you and you still have a chance to CHANGE. Seek help, tell the truth, and forgive yourself. Please, you deserve to change and be forgiven. Everybody does. Apologize if you can. Turn this into your past, help yourself, and then go out and help others.

I am trying to forgive myself, but I don’t know if I will ever be able to. No matter how much I apologize, I still cannot come to terms with what I did. I can forgive almost anyone, find the good in EVERYONE else, but I cannot forgive myself. This is the first time I have ever actually written this all out.

I know that is a lot of writing, but getting it out feels good. I hope that maybe this will help somebody dealing with guilt like this. And of course, I hope victims of rape know how sorry I as well as others (I am sure) are. Deeply sorry. I wish everyone happiness, love, and health.

I had a girl lie about me raping her so she wouldn’t get in trouble for drinking at school. I got expelled for it. Lying about rape is a horrible and serious thing

i cant stand people like you. rape is a serious matter. its not something to joke or lie about. and i can almost guarantee you did this for attention. you should see a therapist. if my close friends lied about such a thing and i found out later that it wasn’t true i would have a hard time trusting that person again. you need to grow up and get help.

if you ever actually experience rape or sexual assault you will understand that this inst something you casually tell anyone.

I was raped by two men at different times. I reported both to the police. Both times I was alienated from many of my friends because “I don’t know what to believe” and “he seems really nice, he would never do that.” Also: “you have an agenda to lie.”

And you know what? It’s cunts like you that let my rapists get away with it, who let them move on to rape others, and who make me look like a liar so I had to completely relocate because I TOLD THE TRUTH.

Fuck you. I hope you really are raped one day, and nobody believes you.

I’ve never accused someone of a crime like rape and made things harder for REAL rape victims. Everybody’s done BAD things, but HER lies are what makes it so hard for REAL rape victims to get justice, or understanding, or even EMPATHY.

Totally judging her as a bad person. Having reported TWO men for rape to the police and having to relocate TWICE because nobody believed me? I can judge her as a horrible person that contributes to the further victimization of rape victims by our “justice” system.

I LOLed at this not making her a horrible person. Rapists are horrible people. People that do things like this and make people who have really gone through rape are horrible people because it is PRECISELY this kind of thing that makes NOBODY believe women who have been raped. So yeah, that qualifies her as a horrible person.

Also, how can you be “disgusted” with us judging someone? LOL HELLOZ IRONY!