Comments on: frida0

By: Jesus

Jesus — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 06:39:46 +0000

Wow, terrible person here.

By: Lizzy

Lizzy — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 02:51:36 +0000

So I read through all the comments, I have to say I was appalled at first. Just because I was adopted and I would hate to have my birth mother think this of me and I’m paranoid like. But I quickly realized that it makes a lot of sense. I don’t agree with the thinking, but good for her for thinking that. AND getting it off her chest.

But honestly what upsets me most is people responses. Not just because people are judging so harshly (we’re human it’s what we do) but because people are freaking out about people’s opinions.

Seriously post secret is here for people to vent but shouldn’t it go both ways? I mean everyone should have their own opinions and comments let people that want to vent that way to. I’m not saying that people should go crazy and say that she’s monster for thinking that way (uh once again we’re all only human) but I think that the people that respond so harshly are also doing it for their own reasons. Maybe it’s their way of getting their secret out there….

And also I really hope this woman feels better and she take’s in the positive comments being shared. I’m sure you have helped a lot feel better.

By: Sky

Sky — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 12:38:42 +0000

The child didn’t grow up in foster care, it was adopted, Two very different things.

By: Jaent

Jaent — Sat, 13 Nov 2010 18:59:05 +0000

I agree with you Yada. And I completely understand where this woman is coming from. I have a son and though I never gave him up for adoption, sometimes I wish I had gotten an abortion. Ugly thoughts happen because humanity is ugly. Postsecret is wonderful because it allows us a small bit of relief from keeping fearful, poisonous secrets from everyone. I’m glad this woman could tell her secret to someone and I’m glad she doesn’t have to deal with people being judgemental about how she feels.

By: phyre

phyre — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 08:01:06 +0000

As others have mentioned, we have no idea what this woman’s daughter is like. Maybe she’s a horrible bitch who causes nothing but pain for everyone around her. Maybe she abuses her own kids. There are many reasons why a person’s mother might regret bringing them into the world.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 09:47:37 +0000

Maybe she regrets her decision to give her up every day. She may have been miserable the past 25 years wondering how her child was. Perhaps their reunion was less than happy and she is sad with how it turned out. Or maybe she is just a horrible, selfish person. You never know.

By: Summer

Summer — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 22:13:58 +0000

Chilling…

By: jared

jared — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 23:40:36 +0000

the black dot on her head.. i don’t get it. my first thought is that it’s meant to represent a ‘hole’. like the saying ‘miss you like a hole in the head’ saying that she isn’t missing her child at all.

By: kay

kay — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:33:11 +0000

Maybe the woman herself thinks she is the horrible one. Maybe she wishes the child would never have to know her. Whatever it is, I wish this woman the best.

By: Black

Black — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 19:21:51 +0000

Buncha judgemental asses!

By: Elynn

Elynn — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 06:04:49 +0000

I thought I was preggo, I think I had a miscarriage. I am honestly happier that way than if I would have had to have one, and give it away. I couldn’t financially afford to raise it, and the reason it would have been here would have been because I was raped. I couldnt stand the thought of putting another life somewhere for that to happen.

By: M

Thu, 31 Dec 2009 07:48:27 +0000

This is one of my favourites too.

By: KD

KD — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 03:40:44 +0000

I agree with this. I’m sure this woman has a reason, but it’s still really sad. I’m not adopted, but I want to adopt kids someday, and I hope they never have to face something like this.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 04:17:14 +0000

Wow.

Pretty brave thing for you to say, “Ray.” I take it you are male and will never be faced with this decision. How can you presume to judge something you can’t possibly understand?

By: Danielle

Danielle — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 04:11:01 +0000

“The mother shouldn’t have had sex in the first place, then.”

Yeah, like all of those stupid idiots who get killed by drunk drivers. If they didn’t want to get killed, why did they drive in the first place and leave things up to chance? Obviously it’s their fault for leaving their houses in the first place.

(Don’t judge this woman. You don’t know her situation.)

By: Open Mind & Some Sympathy

Open Mind & Some Sympathy — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 22:03:00 +0000

The instant I read this my first thought was the child may have been a result of rape or incest. Have you ever thought about that? That would be a horrible memory to have to revisit because a child was bore out of such a tragedy. A child who has now found you and will unintentionally remind you of such an event for the rest of your life. I will not judge this secret. The circumstances under which this notecard was written can be absolutely anything. Maybe the birth was physically or mentally excruciating for any number of reasons. All I can say is I hope things will get better for this individual whether or not her child sticks around.

By: Kat

Kat — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 21:43:27 +0000

Why be concerned? Every human judges; it is our nature. Don’t worry about it–there will be people who perhaps needed to see your secret. Besides, you ultimately devulge your secret because *you* need to get it out–so do it for you!

By: writer

writer — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:13:04 +0000

Is it because her daughter found her, or is it because of what she found had come into the world? If you can’t answer it, don’t judge.

By: claire

claire — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 01:01:36 +0000

Man this kinda makes me upset, I just got into post secret. I have thought about sending my secrets in but am thinking differently now reading these comments. People are judging this woman and her secret. Every human has a secrets….. why judge them?!

By: claire

claire — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 00:57:16 +0000

I also am adopted. i found my birth mother…. I commend her for what she did. I am also a mother, and cannot imagine giving my child up. It has to be the hardest thing in the entire world to do. So here comes her child, the one she gave up. She probably didn’t want to see her, keep that part of her life tucked away. Adoption touches all people involved, don’t judge this woman.

By: Rhea

Rhea — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 12:25:44 +0000

You don’t know her. You don’t know her life.
Get over it, and stop judging her, she’s a human being too.

By: Tomasa

Tomasa — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 04:20:20 +0000

thats fucked up

By: Ray

Ray — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 20:44:44 +0000

Agreed!

By: Ray

Ray — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 20:43:27 +0000

Even if the girl turned out to be a serial killer, the woman still shouldn’t have had an abortion. If the woman had had the abortion- then SHE would have been the killer. Every one deserves the right to live.

By: Katrina

Katrina — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 05:16:56 +0000

I was supposed to be an abortion,, what you dont seem to be remembering is not all foster parents are loving,, in fact very few are.

I am not saying I wish i was dead, i’m saying I woulda respected my moms descion not to have me if it ment i didn’t have to live such a pain filled life.

By: j

Tue, 11 Aug 2009 04:54:01 +0000

This is terribly sad.
In a way, I can see why you regret giving birth to her and putting her up for adoption – it probably made her feel like she hadn’t been wanted, that she was a mistake or something. And I highly doubt that it *didn’t* make you feel awful, giving her away. But then, you obviously had a choice (!). Not many do; you were able to go through with the pregnancy, and bring another life into this world.
One of my best friends was adopted, and she has so many doubts about her real parents – yet, she lives and she loves and her adoptive parents adore her. And she’s an amazing friend.
I hate to bring up the abortion issue, but just one personal point: if I would have been in your position, I would have done what you did, unless it wasn’t *just* an accident – unless I became pregnant because I had intercourse against my will, or because I didn’t take care of myself and therefore knew that my baby would not come into this world healthy and pure.

By: tonya

tonya — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 22:06:38 +0000

you have no idea why she said she wishes she had the abortion, so how dare you say she’s selfish after she’s admitting to something most people wouldn’t? i agree you’re missing the point of post secret, we’re not suppose to criticize someone for what they think, we’re suppose to tell them it’s okay and we understand that’s why post secret is here so they can see they’re not alone, but here you are calling them selfish it sounds like the pot calling the kettle black to me

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 13:24:32 +0000

If I got pregnant now, I honestly would get an abortion because if I did give the baby up for adoption I would NEVER want them to find me 20 years later.

By: Jaybird

Jaybird — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 09:42:04 +0000

It should be said that anyone who thinks Einstein is solely responsible for the development of nuclear power has the critical thinking skills of a first grader.

By: anbhmn

anbhmn — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 02:13:51 +0000

I’m adopted and I don’t find this offensive. My birth mom was catholic and didn’t believe in abortion but she made sure I was tortured for being her baby and drank, smoked and did drugs. I wish she died in child birth because the rest of my life is completely messed up due to medical issues etc…

It’s silly to judge this women over what she has said. For all you know, this girl could’ve been kicked out of her house, found her and started pestering her/begging her for money etc…

My sister is adopted and tried to sue her mom for emotional trauma from being adopted. Her birth family and our family both wish she wasn’t born. it would’ve saved many of us a load of hurt.

Saying you wish you had an abortion isn’t saying you wish the person was dead NOW…just that the world could’ve been spared from such a failure at life.

I’m sure most people out there have at least one person they wish wasn’t born. George bush sr and jr for example.

By: Yada

Yada — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 00:14:08 +0000

you miss the fking point of post secret. what people think may seem evil but in fact it’s just what happens. this isn’t a place to judge. imo being able to comment on these posts… is so counter intuitive…

By: Frax

Frax — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:20:08 +0000

I like this one a lot. If I were to have a child and put them up for adoption, I wouldn’t want them to come back years later and give me a guilt trip saying I gave them up.

By: Kev

Kev — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 02:57:50 +0000

Perhaps the child turned out to be a horrible/destructive person…

By: knuck

knuck — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 18:27:03 +0000

this one is sad… do you wish you had an abortion just cuz she found you?
adoption is the preferable method of getting rid of a baby

By: ...

... — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 07:12:09 +0000

The mother shouldn’t have had sex in the first place, then.

Of course this ideal and we’re all human (most of us with healthy sex drives), it does mean that this IS all her fault, and if she’s wishing anyone dead because of this situation- it should be herself.

By: Friend

Friend — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 07:09:09 +0000

Yeah, and we wouldn’t be shitting our pants over North Korea either. Idiot.

By: isabelle

isabelle — Tue, 05 May 2009 09:16:41 +0000

- even if the daughter has a right to meet her birth mother, the mother did choose not to raise the child, and apparently still wishes to have no association. in my opinion that’s fair enough

By: alisa

alisa — Tue, 05 May 2009 04:24:22 +0000

Maybe the daughter wanted some answers as to why she was given away. It is hard on both ends because the birth mother didnt want to be found, but her child was curious. It is a terrible thing to wish your child was dead, instead of polity asking them to leave you along.

By: Nord

Nord — Sat, 02 May 2009 22:09:47 +0000

I suspect the daughter told her how much she hated her for giving her away. That would make me pretty mad.

By: Eric

Eric — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 22:51:13 +0000

I can’t believe people are judging somebody from 3 sentances written on a postcard! For all you know, her daughter turned out to be a serial killer.

By: J

Wed, 08 Apr 2009 17:12:19 +0000

Dude, don’t judge or assume.
You have a good point, but this isn’t the place.

By: f00

f00 — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:31:59 +0000

The rational behind your reasoning is disturbing. Well, since she was raised by people who may or may not have been abusive her life is exponential worse then not living all. That is absolute garbage there have been many influential people who came from broken/abusive homes Einstein for example well if we aborted him because we knew he was going to have a bad childhood science and the progression of mankind would not be as we know it

By: Friend

Friend — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 07:07:15 +0000

No one has the right to not be hated for ANY reason, because everyone has the right to hate.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 19:59:08 +0000

I agree with pixydust, to the people that’re saying the lady who wrote this secret should change her perspective, or that it’s screwed up or wrong to feel the way she does, maybe all of you should change your perspectives.
There’s so many reasons the lady with the secret can feel the way she does, and it’s possible that it has nothing to do with selfishness, and even if it does, she has all the rights to feel how she does. People keep secrets like these because so many people judge, like people commenting this has. Yeah, everyone should have a right to live, but everyone should have a right to feel the way they do without people hating it too.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 18:30:34 +0000

To the lady who wrote this secret, gain a different perspective that is less selfish. You made the best decision by not taking an innocent life, because no matter what the circumstance it is not our place to dedcide who deserves the right to live or die. I hope in time you can understand that the decision you made was an honorable one. I do not know your situation, but I do know everyone deserves the right to life.

By: pixydust

pixydust — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:24:00 +0000

Maybe her daughter didn’t have loving parents…mabe she was adopted my someone abusive….you never know.

To the lady that wrote this secret, hugs to you….because for whatever reason you are hurting in some terrible ways.

By: scoenen

scoenen — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:49:53 +0000

Wow. No judging here but being adopted myself this really hurts and saddens me.

By: Sky

Sky — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 13:30:10 +0000

I wonder why she wishes she had an abortion instead of the girl growing up with (hopefully) loving parents. I am not judging, as I couldn’t possibly understand the situation, but I don’t understand why anyone would rather a person didn’t exist.

By: meeee

meeee — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 14:48:39 +0000

wow.
I have never seen a secret like this.

By: allison

allison — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 09:57:12 +0000

I understand completely… completely. not every door should be opened.

By: Happy

Happy — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 00:17:33 +0000

Don’t judge on others; you don’t know their situation. The point of the secrets is to take it all in and realize the things that real people think out there, secretly.

By: mike

mike — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 13:48:54 +0000

I’m adopted. I kind of think this is kind of screwed up