Post Secret Archive

I’m adopted. I kind of think this is kind of screwed up

Don’t judge on others; you don’t know their situation. The point of the secrets is to take it all in and realize the things that real people think out there, secretly.

I understand completely… completely. not every door should be opened.

wow.
I have never seen a secret like this.

I wonder why she wishes she had an abortion instead of the girl growing up with (hopefully) loving parents. I am not judging, as I couldn’t possibly understand the situation, but I don’t understand why anyone would rather a person didn’t exist.

Wow. No judging here but being adopted myself this really hurts and saddens me.

Maybe her daughter didn’t have loving parents…mabe she was adopted my someone abusive….you never know.

To the lady that wrote this secret, hugs to you….because for whatever reason you are hurting in some terrible ways.

To the lady who wrote this secret, gain a different perspective that is less selfish. You made the best decision by not taking an innocent life, because no matter what the circumstance it is not our place to dedcide who deserves the right to live or die. I hope in time you can understand that the decision you made was an honorable one. I do not know your situation, but I do know everyone deserves the right to life.

I agree with pixydust, to the people that’re saying the lady who wrote this secret should change her perspective, or that it’s screwed up or wrong to feel the way she does, maybe all of you should change your perspectives.
There’s so many reasons the lady with the secret can feel the way she does, and it’s possible that it has nothing to do with selfishness, and even if it does, she has all the rights to feel how she does. People keep secrets like these because so many people judge, like people commenting this has. Yeah, everyone should have a right to live, but everyone should have a right to feel the way they do without people hating it too.

I can’t believe people are judging somebody from 3 sentances written on a postcard! For all you know, her daughter turned out to be a serial killer.

I suspect the daughter told her how much she hated her for giving her away. That would make me pretty mad.

Maybe the daughter wanted some answers as to why she was given away. It is hard on both ends because the birth mother didnt want to be found, but her child was curious. It is a terrible thing to wish your child was dead, instead of polity asking them to leave you along.

- even if the daughter has a right to meet her birth mother, the mother did choose not to raise the child, and apparently still wishes to have no association. in my opinion that’s fair enough

this one is sad… do you wish you had an abortion just cuz she found you?
adoption is the preferable method of getting rid of a baby

Perhaps the child turned out to be a horrible/destructive person…

I like this one a lot. If I were to have a child and put them up for adoption, I wouldn’t want them to come back years later and give me a guilt trip saying I gave them up.

I’m adopted and I don’t find this offensive. My birth mom was catholic and didn’t believe in abortion but she made sure I was tortured for being her baby and drank, smoked and did drugs. I wish she died in child birth because the rest of my life is completely messed up due to medical issues etc…

It’s silly to judge this women over what she has said. For all you know, this girl could’ve been kicked out of her house, found her and started pestering her/begging her for money etc…

My sister is adopted and tried to sue her mom for emotional trauma from being adopted. Her birth family and our family both wish she wasn’t born. it would’ve saved many of us a load of hurt.

Saying you wish you had an abortion isn’t saying you wish the person was dead NOW…just that the world could’ve been spared from such a failure at life.

I’m sure most people out there have at least one person they wish wasn’t born. George bush sr and jr for example.

If I got pregnant now, I honestly would get an abortion because if I did give the baby up for adoption I would NEVER want them to find me 20 years later.

This is terribly sad.
In a way, I can see why you regret giving birth to her and putting her up for adoption – it probably made her feel like she hadn’t been wanted, that she was a mistake or something. And I highly doubt that it *didn’t* make you feel awful, giving her away. But then, you obviously had a choice (!). Not many do; you were able to go through with the pregnancy, and bring another life into this world.
One of my best friends was adopted, and she has so many doubts about her real parents – yet, she lives and she loves and her adoptive parents adore her. And she’s an amazing friend.
I hate to bring up the abortion issue, but just one personal point: if I would have been in your position, I would have done what you did, unless it wasn’t *just* an accident – unless I became pregnant because I had intercourse against my will, or because I didn’t take care of myself and therefore knew that my baby would not come into this world healthy and pure.

Even if the girl turned out to be a serial killer, the woman still shouldn’t have had an abortion. If the woman had had the abortion- then SHE would have been the killer. Every one deserves the right to live.

thats fucked up

You don’t know her. You don’t know her life.
Get over it, and stop judging her, she’s a human being too.

Man this kinda makes me upset, I just got into post secret. I have thought about sending my secrets in but am thinking differently now reading these comments. People are judging this woman and her secret. Every human has a secrets….. why judge them?!

Is it because her daughter found her, or is it because of what she found had come into the world? If you can’t answer it, don’t judge.

The instant I read this my first thought was the child may have been a result of rape or incest. Have you ever thought about that? That would be a horrible memory to have to revisit because a child was bore out of such a tragedy. A child who has now found you and will unintentionally remind you of such an event for the rest of your life. I will not judge this secret. The circumstances under which this notecard was written can be absolutely anything. Maybe the birth was physically or mentally excruciating for any number of reasons. All I can say is I hope things will get better for this individual whether or not her child sticks around.

I thought I was preggo, I think I had a miscarriage. I am honestly happier that way than if I would have had to have one, and give it away. I couldn’t financially afford to raise it, and the reason it would have been here would have been because I was raped. I couldnt stand the thought of putting another life somewhere for that to happen.

Buncha judgemental asses!

Maybe the woman herself thinks she is the horrible one. Maybe she wishes the child would never have to know her. Whatever it is, I wish this woman the best.

the black dot on her head.. i don’t get it. my first thought is that it’s meant to represent a ‘hole’. like the saying ‘miss you like a hole in the head’ saying that she isn’t missing her child at all.

Chilling…